It may be the most used phrase in the English language. You probably hear it, or say it, every day. “I can’t.” Most of the time that phrase is uttered, it is the wrong phrase. You can do it, but you won’t. The two phrases do not mean the same thing and that, to paraphrase Robert Frost, shall make all the difference.
Can’t is absolute. It means it is not possible. There is very little that truly falls into this category. Won’t is a matter of choice. It isn’t that you can’t get to an evening networking meeting, it is that you are choosing to have dinner with your family. You can make the meeting, but you choose not to. It is important to note here that there is not necessarily a right and wrong choice. However, you will be held back by not acknowledging that you are making a choice. Remember as you sit there watching Game of Thrones that you chose to subscribe to HBO instead of putting an extra $20 into your retirement account.
Every choice has pros and cons. Every choice has consequences. Unless you acknowledge those consequences, they will come back later to cause problems. Understanding the consequences of what you choose to do and what you choose not to do can mitigate their effects and leave you in a better place.
The first step to taking control of your life, business and career is to understand the difference between can’t and won’t.
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