In “The Maltese Falcon” Caspar Gutman tells Sam Spade, “I do like a man who tells you right out he’s looking out for himself. Don’t we all? I don’t trust a man who says he’s not.”

We are all out for ourselves. The difference between being out for ourselves and being selfish is how you go about your business. There is a big difference between being selfish and “enlightened self-interest.” When we do out jobs well or help someone out, we gain. Iy could be a feeling of accomplishment or pride. It could simply be our salary. It is human nature to want something for themselves.

What holds people back is the impression that they need to be selfless. No is completely selfless. You don’t need to feel guilty about that. You deserve to feel good about yourself and you deserve to make money for your work. The key is that you need to look at every relationship as win-win. You give and you get. The more you give the more you get.

Finally you need to accept that there is nothing wrong with asking for help. Many of us have difficulty asking for assistance when we need it, even though we are more than happy to offer help when asked. Ask for help when you need it and accept that you need to look outdoor yourself. That slight mindset shift can reduce stress and increase your success.

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