We’ve talked a lot about having a positive mindset. There is such a thing as being too positive. In fact pushing positivity too far can be toxic to you. So what is toxic positivity? Toxic positivity is an obsession with positive thinking. It is the belief that people should put a positive spin on all experiences, even those that are profoundly tragic. Toxic positivity can silence negative emotions, demean grief, and make people feel under pressure to pretend to be happy even when they are struggling.
There is a misconception that having a positive mindset means you don’t let things get to you or that you always wake up in a great mood. This is unrealistic and unhealthy. Having a positive mindset does not mean you are always on. People need to process tragedies, not suppress them. You have to give yourself permission to be sad, angry, or upset when the situation warrants it.
Acknowledge your real feelings, whether they are positive or not. Dealing with sadness or anger does not mean you aren’t a positive person. It just means you are a person. Find a close friend or family member and confide what you are going through. Things are easier when you have support.
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